Michelle Allison LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Individual and Family Psychotherapy for
Adults, Adolescents and Couples
About My Practice
Divorce, remarriage, blended families
Grief and loss
Obsessive compulsive disorder
PTSD, trauma and abuse
Substance abuse, addictions
Suicide; self injurious behavior
Some guiding ideas I like, in no particular order of importance
Give yourself permission to show up for therapy as exactly the person you are at that present moment: there is no preferred version of yourself that need appear.
If you do show up consistently and are present in therapy, you will likely make changes despite your initially sceptical outlook.
Figuring out who we are (Identity formation) is a central task of being human: the more authentic the identity the better the live we have.
Acceptance is not resignation or "settling": the skill is to know when acceptance is wise and therefore, affirming
Practicing mindfulness is paying attemtion to the present moment without judgement--more difficult to do than might first appear--especially the judgement part of it; corollary: awareness is the essential first step toward growth or change.
Avoidance of aversive experience, although understandable, is often self defeating; therfore,lean into your experience and spend time with it irrespective of its quality.
Always respect the limits of our imagination; it's very difficult to imagine something that you've never had any direct experience of; that said, an important goal is to find ways to move beyond those limits.
The fundamental fabric of our culture and experience is based on "doing" and making disctinctions or judgements. Yet a balaced life includes spaces and times where simply "being" and non judgement have primacy.
Finding ways to reconcile seemingly polar opposites (so-called "dialectical dilemas) helps us out of being "stuck" in dead end emotional pathways.
We often cast off or leave behind important aspects of ourselves, while preserving others which serve us less well. Reclamation of these cast-off parts of us can be re-invigorating.
Often we unthinkingly elimnate options for action without even seeing them as possible options: expand your field of vision, move outside the box.
Beware a view of the world as a zero sum game: the notion that there are finite and limited amounts of what we all need: that someone else's gain is my loss or disadvantage. Corollary: we can always generate positive emotion based on our inherent human capacity for compassion and good will.
Issues I Work With